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I hope this helps – women find themselves in this situation often, and it sucks. Please let me know how things go.
6collegegirl1 January 2, 2010 at 2:15 am
Hey, all your articles are so helpful…and SOSO true! This semester, I hooked up with a guy a couple of weekends and then he just ended it. Basically, I knew all along he wanted sex, but I kept rejecting him, and he kept pursuing me, so I thought that he was fine with waiting. The last night we hooked up, though, was the last weekend of the semester, and he really thought he was gonna get sex, but we weren't in a relationship and I wasn't ready. Since I met him, he made me feel special and would compliment me and it seemed like he really liked me. I learned that it was all a lie and he was playing me to get one thing out of me, because when he didn't get sex he practically kicked me out the next morning and the next day when I saw him he ignored me and pretended he didn't see me. I got mad, saw him, and then turned around and called him out. It made me feel better because it validated that he was only lying to me all along for sex, but in the end, he probably thought I was psychotic or something, when in reality, I feel like I was being honest and staying strong because I had the courage to go up to him. I had how I was probably viewed as the crazy girl, and he had the power all along. I ended up getting hurt because I got emotionally attached and he obviously was only physically attached. It sucks.
7susanawalsh January 2, 2010 at 3:56 pm
Collegegirl1, nice to meet you, I'm really glad you took the time to comment. About that guy: WHAT A DOUCHEBAG! The absolute worst is when a guy pretends to be nice, respectful and caring, only to get the touchdown. Then it's Game Over. Ugh. However, I've gotta say, you did everything right here. You didn't have sex before you were ready. He didn't get what he wanted. So you can feel good about respecting yourself. Also, I love, love, love it that you called him out. Brave girl!
Re the psycho label, guys use it all the time when girls tell the truth. They behave very badly, then say a girl is crazy because she refuses to put up with it. It's understandable that you were angry, and there was nothing crazy about your behavior.
I am really sorry you got hurt. When you're in college, one thing you can do is be aware of someone's reputation before you get close to them. So no matter how sweet a guy is acting, if he has left a trail of broken hearts, steer clear. Look for some signs of vulnerability – a guy who acts 100% confident all the time? That's a red flag.
Re power, that is a tough one. I would say that ultimately, you had the last word. There is power in that. He didn't get to add you to his number.